I didn’t have the typical college experience. I didn’t get to live in a
dorm, party, or make new friends. But I’m not bitter about it. I attended the
city college in my town. I began working for my mother at her group home. The
city college was basically a bigger version of my high school. People hung around
that didn’t even go there. After the first three weeks students would just
disappear. I felt so ready and scared when I first began school and I really
thought I had it figured out. But of course, I didn’t and like many others I
struggled because I just didn’t know what I was doing there. I hated it. I
never wanted to go and I just felt like it was a waste of time. So I dropped
out. Through the years this has been a pattern of mines. And I created a lot of
debt because of it. I blame myself for that. I rushed it. I couldn’t figure it out
fast enough. There were so many things I wanted to be! A writer, a fashion
designer, blogger, business owner, so many things. And I couldn’t figure out
what major would help me be able to do these things without restricting me to
one job. I just started feeling empty, like maybe I was aiming too high. I would
tell myself ,just be a teacher, or a nurse, at least you’ll have a job. Then I
realized that there is no reason I can’t be and do whatever the fuck I want. There
are too many ways to build a career, a brand, a whole ass business around YOU. I
refuse to spend my life frantically trying to catch up for lost time, having
regrets. I realized I rather struggle doing what makes me happy then barely get
by,by doing what makes me fucking miserable. I didn’t give myself the chance to
explore other options. So, I kept starting over and making the same mistakes. Now
I’m trying something different. So many people leave their jobs and start new
careers. So many people wish they would’ve done this or that. I was miserable
in school. I honestly hated it. I wanted to own a business, write, travel, and
have time to myself. No one was teaching me how to do that. They were teaching me
how to be an employee. This is not a school is evil, fuck the system kind of
post. This is my experience. This is why I don’t see myself going back to college
anytime soon. Maybe later in life, but for now, it isn’t an option. If you don’t
see it being beneficial for you then that’s ok. Don’t feel pressured. Don’t lose
yourself in the “American Dream”. That dream has changed. Our generation has
gotten creative. There is a path for you trust me.
No matter the age. No matter the partner . It is important to be smart when it comes to sex. There are many types of contraception and many ways to be responsible no matter your preference. Down below I have compiled a list of common contraceptives . I’ve included what they are,and how long they last/ how often they should be replaced. The explanations will be short and simple. I will briefly go over Consent, unprotected sex,and Sex and STDS. I urge you to do your own research and ask a doctor. This is just so you have an idea. I am NOT a doctor.
Birth Control. There are many types of birth control . But at the end of the day it’s all about what works best for you.
The birth control implant is a tiny rod that is inserted into your arm. It releases hormones to prevent pregnancy for up to 5 years .
A device that is inserted into your cervix that averts sperm. Can last up to 12 years and can be taken out at any time.
3. Depo Shot
This is a shot you get every three months. You must stay on top of it for it to remain effective .
4. Nuva Ring
Is inserted into the vagina. Release hormones. Prevents sperm from getting to the egg. Should be replaced monthly.
5.Birth Control Patch
Usually worn on arm. Releases hormones. Should be replaced weekly.
6.Birth Control Pill
You take this daily .
Protects you against pregnancy and STDs.
8. Female Condoms
Protects you against pregnancy and STDs.
Consent is very important. Please be sure to have a conversation with your partner about what is expected and what is not. Remember NO MEANS NO. You and/or your partner are allowed to say no at anytime and you should respect that and act accordingly.
What to do when you have unprotected sex.
If you happen to be in a situation where the condom breaks ,slipped off,or you were just caught in the moment and are not on any kind of birth control,then you can go to the store and get Plan B over the counter. Plan B is a an emergency contraceptive that helps prevent pregnancy(not STDs or STIs) and should be taken within 72 hours. If you are a person that enjoys unprotected sex then it is important you are tested and that you ask your partner to be tested BEFORE you have sex. If your are sexually active you should get tested at least once a year.
Having sex with an STD/STI
If you happen to have a STD and choose to be sexually active. It is responsible and respectable to let your partner know . If you have an STD that can simple be taken care of by taking an antibiotic (most can be) the best thing you can do is wait until the STD has been cleared up . If you are living with HIV/Aids or any similar STI . Speak with your doctor about what you can do to make sure you are and your partner are protected. And remember you are not alone. If there are any good support groups out there please list them in the comments.
Thank you guys for reading. If there’s any questions or comments you have about sex and relationships . Please comment below .
Loving your body doesn’t always start at the gym or in a doctor’s office. It starts with you and only you. Here are a few things I’ve learned to help me become more comfortable with my body and have helped me learn to love my body.These are things that worked for me. There is no guarantee that it will work for you but it doesn’t hurt to try.
Take A Picture
Simple, take a picture. Naked or in lingerie. Take a sexy picture and look at it. Really look at it . Notice all your stretch marks ,scars, weird hairs , pimples and know that it’s normal and it’s beautiful. If you happen to be going through a huge transformation. Take a picture. See how far you’ve come. Before and after pictures are a great motivation.
You eat better you feel better. When you feel sluggish and gross from eating junk it can affect the way you look at yourself. Get rid of it ! all of it. Only eat dirty in moderation.
For the same reason why you should eat better you should also be working out. Working out also helps with anxiety, stress,and builds stamina. It’s not just for getting an awesome bod. It helps your mind too !
Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People
This is something I still sometimes struggle with. I know it’s hard. When your always on Instagram and you see everyone living their best life . You can’t help but think “why not me !”. Well slow your roll ,your time is coming. Everyone glows up at their own pace ! Trust me love, you’ll be stuntin on em soon enough.
Affirmations are sayings you repeat to your self out loud that encourage positivity and growth. You can find some on Pinterest ,Youtube,or Google.I suggest downloading the app Selfishbabe. It’s an amazing app and you get daily affirmations right on your phone !